Wow, it’s been a long time since I’ve last updated. So many things have happened since then. Most significantly – thank God for the safe delivery of Eleanor and the blessing that he has given us.
Decided to come back and journal because Motherhood has been challenging. It wasn’t the rosy loving picture that I’ve expected- in saying that , I look back now and think what a naive soul i was… haha
I’m journalling now because it hit me earlier that when I look back all that I remember of the past 7 weeks was that they were hard. but then I have to remind myself that God has blessed us with this child (one that we’ve been yearning for) but here I am getting annoyed and upset at her for now living up to my expectations. I’ve come to realise that I want Ella to be the textbook ideal perfect child. To be sleeping independently in her cot for long stretches (At 7 weeks hmm-mm) just so I can be doing my own things. I get annoyed and particularly anxious when she can’t and i google and talk to people to find out what I can do to remedy this. I’ve searched and tried so many things and it’s been making me more and more anxious. But when I stop and reflect on why- it’s because I want my time and space (not wrong in that) but I want it to the extent that I’m resenting her for being “fussy and demanding”. What a selfish sinner I am.
All that more I’ve realised that I need to rely on God’s grace and future grace. That even if we get 3 hours of sleep tonight, I trust that God will see us through – whether it is giving us strength or giving us friends that we can call on to help us. Whether or not she builds bad sleeping habits now, is going to be inconsequential in the big scheme of things because what’s most important is to point Ella to the gospel and keep praying that by God’s grace- she will call Him her Lord and Saviour.
It’s sooo easy to be distracted by worldly earthly things through this motherhood gig- without even realising it. I’ve come to realised how much I’ve relied on myself and my googling knowledge to try and “control” Ella- when really I should be bringing my fears and anxiety to the one who created her even before I knew her.
So I’m writing this to remind myself to loosen up- to remember that it’s not about having a perfect child or to have uninterrupted sleeps (although that will definitely be nice). But to remember to love and steward this blessing that God has given us and to constantly be reminded of what’s most important in Ella’s life and to surrender my anxieties and cares daily to the God who cares not just for her but for me as well.
Motherhood is hard that’s for sure, it challenges my sanctification but at the same time I’m going to remind myself of the joy that this little chubby puff-face has brought us 🙂